Volume 17 Number 56 Produced: Wed Dec 28 17:30:39 1994 Subjects Discussed In This Issue: Bat Mitzvah (2) [Elad Rosin, Aleeza Esther Berger] Bat Mitzvah celebrations [Shani Bechhofer] Hannukkah and Yom Ha'atzma'ut [Jerome Parness] Hebrew for secular purposes [Eli Turkel] Issur Kilayim [Josh Cappell] Jewish UPenn [Ira Rosen] Obsessive Compulsive Disorder [ Dr. Jeremy Schiff] Pronunciation of Hebrew [Esther R Posen] ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: <3QJ5ROSINE@...> (Elad Rosin) Date: Sun, 25 Dec 1994 16:56:52 -0600 (CST) Subject: Bat Mitzvah In a recent post to mj about Bat Mitzvah's Irwin A. Keller wrote at the end: "The Chauvenistic motivation is obvious in that there was and is a premium placed on having sons in preference to daughters (kadishels). I would be curious to see if anyone knows of any 'sources' in this regard, halachik or literary." Just having learned a Gemara referring to this concept I thought I would write a second follow up to Irwin's post. One source as to having a preference of sons more than daughters is the Gemara in Baba Basra 16b. The Gemara brings down an incident in where Rebbi Shimon the son of Rebbi (the author of the mishna) had a daughter. When his father, Rebbi saw that his son was upset at not having a son he tried to console him by saying that at least he has helped to populate the world which is a mitzvah. The Gemara then relates that Bar Kapra said to Rebbi Shimon that the consolation that his father gave is meaningless since there is a Braisa that says (this is not an exact translation, see the gemara for the full text of the Braisa), "It is impossible for the world to exist without both males and females, however lucky is the one who has sons and woe is to the one who has females". DO NOT STOP HERE!!!!!!! The Chasam Sofer asks a question on this Gemara. He asks, how is it possible that Bar Kapra could say such a thing to Rebbi Shimon? Certainly this is not in the way of Mussar to be insensitive to one's feelings. He answers that in truth it is not better to have a son more than a daughter since each is only one half of a whole and only when they are married is a single, whole entity created. However, one who is 'batuach', sure, that his sons would be Talmidei Chachomim is better off since his chalek (portion) in Torah is received immediately. On the other hand if he has no reason to be sure that his sons will be Talmidei Chachomim he is better off having daughters since he can then marry them to a Talmid Chochom. In the case of Rebbi Shimon the first scenario is was the case. He was from possibly the greatest Torah family in Jewish History. Starting with Hillel all the way through Rebbi Yehuda HaNassi, his father. In such a case it is in fact preferable to have sons as opposed to daughters. Now to answer the original question of the Chasam Sofer. Rebbi was trying to console his son Rebbi Shimon, but this was at the expense of his own honor, since considering who Rebbi was, it would in fact be better to have sons. Therefore Bar Kapra who was a student of Rebbi was required to defend Rebbi's honor and it is for that reason that he brought down the Braisa that was mentioned above. This I hope should answer any questions you may have had and also help to alleviate the notion that Chazal were in someway "chauvinistic". Thank You, Elad Rosin P.S. As usual any and all responses or criticisms are encouraged through either a post or a personal reply. ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Aleeza Esther Berger <aeb21@...> Date: Wed, 28 Dec 1994 14:55:12 -0500 (EST) Subject: Bat Mitzvah The idea that girls should not have a public commemoration of their coming-of-age, because our role is private, may be appropriate for communities where this is in fact true. But in many Orthodox communities, both women and men profess to not view women's role as primarily private. In such a climate, girls who wouldn't have some kind of public commemoration would be faced with a destructive mixed message (e.g. they are telling me to be active publicly, but they don't really mean it.) Orthodox girls get enough of this overtly in shul and covertly or subconsciously from society - a bat mitzvah is a great way to send a positive message. Aliza Berger ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: <sbechhof@...> (Shani Bechhofer) Date: Tue, 27 Dec 1994 23:38:19 -0600 (CST) Subject: Bat Mitzvah celebrations A prominent Rosh Yeshiva here in Chicago encourages his children to make a celebration of their daughters' bas mitsva birthdays. They do celebrate, but with a large family gathering at home and the girl gives a dvar torah, rather than with a lavish public affair or a "birthday party" at which the kids do arts and crafts projects. I'm not sure whether he considers it a seudas mitzva or not, but he definitely deems it an important message to his granddaughters, and a way to model to the community how a bas mitzva celebration should be. He does not see it as a bedieved or as deriving from non-Orthodox sources. Shani Bechhofer ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Jerome Parness <parness@...> Date: Wed, 28 Dec 1994 14:00:16 -0500 (EST) Subject: Hannukkah and Yom Ha'atzma'ut This is in response to Michael Lipkin's query regarding those who hold that Yom Ha'atzmaut is a religious holiday. What if C"V Israel is destroyed and there is no longer any state, would we still say Hallel (with a bracha). While I am not a posek and do not pretend to be, I believe the arguments would spread along the following logical paths: 1. If you hold that it is indeed a religious holiday, than the actual amount of time this miracle, the State of Israel, remains in existence is immaterial. Example in kind: Purim or Hannukah. Both of these holidays celebrate a physical deliverance, Purim - a Nes Nistar, Hannukah - a Nes Galuy. For those who believe that the State of Israel was Nes Galuy, the maintenance of a physical entity of statehood is immaterial - just as there was an eventual destruction of the state of Israel in the time of the Romans, and just as the House of Hashomnaim brought about its own destruction by assuming both the high priesthood and the crown. In both cases, the results of the individual miracles were eventually destroyed, yet we commemorate these events with religious holidays - and both of them are d'rabbanan. 2. If you don't hold there was any Nes Galuy, then there is no argument for Hallel with a bracha anyway; if you hold there was no Nes Nistar, then there is no argument for Hallel in the first place. The essence of the argument then becomes does a religious holiday commemorating a perceived miraculous event that causes the establishment of an existential religious entity (Bet Hamikdash, Jewish State on Admat Hakodesh) always require that that physical entity maintain its existence to prove the miraculousness of the entity's establishment, and hence its religious observance? The answer from Purim and Hannukah, I think, is no. Jerome Parness MD PhD Internet: <parness@...> Depts of Anesthesia & Pharmacology Voice: (908) 235-4824 UMDNJ-Robert Wood Johnson Medical School FAX: (908) 235-4073 Piscataway, NJ 08854 ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: <turkel@...> (Eli Turkel) Date: Wed, 28 Dec 94 08:19:38 +0200 Subject: Hebrew for secular purposes Allen Elias writes >> Another reason might be the prohibition by some poskim against speaking >> Lashon Kodesh for secular purposes Does anyone know of sources that actually say this. Obviously in Israel in the days of the first Temple at least Hebrew was the spoken language for all purposes. Even in second Temple days I know of no source that claims that the gradual change to Aramaic was because the rabbis preferred Aramaic for non-religious activities. <turkel@...> ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: <josh@...> (Josh Cappell) Date: Wed, 28 Dec 94 15:42:13 EST Subject: Issur Kilayim Here's a question for mail-Jewish readers. I don't have an answer but would be interested in any ideas you have. Does genetic recombination violate issur kilayim? Molecular biology labs routinely transfect into cells non-native genes. The genes being expressed may be altered host genes or may even be genes of a different species. The cells may then be used to raise actual redesigned animals. Clearly the transfection of a different animal's genes would present a harder problem as far as kilayim goes (possibly falling either under the category of cross-breeding or of grafting). However, the first may be problematic as well. What is the essence of the issur? If it is understood broadly as any interference in the natural biologic endowment of living things, ( interfering with the natural divinely established order in any way), any genetic alteration should be forbidden. I do realize of course that products of kilayim are muttar b'hanaaa, so that we might still benefit from other people's genomic research. Also, targetted gene therapy (e.g. for cystic fibrosis) would be permitted because of pikuach nefesh. The question's relevance therefore is limited to whether Jews may participate in certain types of molecular biological research. Joshua Cappell Dept. of Physiology and Neuroscience New York Univ. School of Medicine <josh@...> ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Ira Rosen <irosen@...> Date: Wed, 28 Dec 94 6:59:52 EST Subject: Jewish UPenn Although I've been out of Philly for a few years, I must make some corrections concerning the Jewish chevra at Penn. The building in which many religious students live is High Rise North (first three floors at last count, it makes the climb easier on shabbat), and they do not live in suits, I assume this was a misprint of 'suites'. The high rise dorms are more accurately described as apartments (they have there own kitchens and bathrooms). Food is easily accessible (and with kitchens, eating is not a problem). There is a Hillel on campus, providing meals, avariety of Jewish cultural groups and a Beit Midrash with classes etc. There is also a Chabad house on campus (not as active as the Hillel house). I've had one aquaintance from yeshiva high school start at Penn, take a year at YU because he wanted a more Jewish atmosphere, and end up at Penn again because he felt he couldn't get the sametype of secular education at YU (he made due with the available Jewish resources at Penn - turned out OK too). I also have more than one friend who became more religious at Penn (one will no longer eat in his parents' house), so, apparently, there are fairly reasonable Jewish resources at Penn (OK - it's no YU, but a university, despite its marketing strategies, can't be all things to all people). Good luck finding a school. Ira Rosen ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: <schiff@...> ( Dr. Jeremy Schiff) Date: Wed, 28 Dec 94 11:40:35 +0200 Subject: Obsessive Compulsive Disorder In response to Mark Steiner's query about Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, I called up David Greenberg, the frum psychiatrist who coauthored the article in the Israel Journal of Psychiatry Mark cited, and a good personal friend of mine. (For those of you without easy access to the IJP, there was an article about this work in the JP - the Jerusalem Post - this past Sunday, Dec 25th). David doesn't have access to the internet right now, so he can't respond himself, and I am certainly not qualified to do so for him. The theoretical question of what distinguishes pious religious behavior from OCD is interesting, and not at all easy to answer. In practice, though, there is a vast gulf between them. A pious person may be careful to wash their hands to get rid of all dirt, and then thoroughly dry them before doing netilat yaddayim (ritual washing of the hands). It'll take a few minutes. The unfortunate person suffering from OCD will stand there scrubbing away with the soap for maybe half an hour or more; he/she won't be able to stop, or prevent him/herself from doing this sort of thing when other people are waiting, or when he/she has other pressing thongs to do. The behavior is evidently damaging, and not controlled. Like many other psychiatric disorders, OCD is not uncommon, and can be successfully treated (with drugs and/or behavioral therapy). If you are aware of people suffering from it, you should help them get treatment, and certainly have no hesitation on religious grounds. A psychiatrist with sensitivity towards religious Jews would be a help - your LOR should be able to help you with this. Jeremy ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: <eposen@...> (Esther R Posen) Date: Wed, 28 Dec 1994 10:27:53 -0500 Subject: Re: Pronunciation of Hebrew This week is so quiet I get to spend some time posting instead or reading and cringing or smiling. In response to Gilad Gevaryahu I would like to point out the following: - Nobody denies the existance of a Jewish State. They just argue about its relative significance and value since it is not purely a religous state. - In Chassidic circles in the USA, Yiddish is still overwhelmingly the Jewish vernacular. I am sure the Chassidic segment of the Jewish population is growing at least as fast as any other. An interesting question to think about is whether you had two choices in this world - to be a chassidic jew or a non-religous zionist which would you choose. Obviously not a practical question but one which gets me to admit that I have more in common with a chassid, who is shomer torah umitzvot, than a secular zionist who does not believe in the validity of torah for our time. - THE TORAH IS AND ALWAYS WILL BE THE GLUE THAT MAKES US A PEOPLE. (I think even the secular zionists know that. Otherwise there would be far fewer provisions in Israel to accomodate the religous jew.) As far as making us one people around the world, the average American jew can't even utter the sound of the "chet" let alone speak any version of hebrew. - I daven with an ashkenazic pronunciation because my father did and so did his father etc. etc. There is no reason for me to break this mesorah. I speak hebrew, as well as I can, with a sephardic pronunciation because that is the way conversational hebrew is spoken. My daughter is in a school that is taking this approach and she is not confused. The problem is not in pronunciation. The problem is in vocabulary. We are not producing enough American teachers that can speak hebrew fluently with any pronunciation. In fact, I have recently realized that my textual skills in hebrew far surpass my conversational skills, since so much of my hebrew language is derived from studying tanach etc. in school and was textually based. Esther ----------------------------------------------------------------------
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