Volume 31 Number 42 Produced: Tue Feb 8 5:07:04 US/Eastern 2000 Subjects Discussed In This Issue: 3 chilling stories [Carl Singer] The Air of Eretz Yisroel makes one Wise (was why not make aliya) [Mordechai] Aliya [Josh Backon] Chilling stories [Melech Press] Copying disks [David Charlap] Halacha and Cosmetic Surgery [Esther Zar] Little things - habits and customary derech [Carl Singer] Masada and suicide [Chaim Shapiro] Mechitza [Chaim Mateh] Parnuseh and Education [Gershon Dubin] ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Carl Singer <CARLSINGER@...> Date: Mon, 7 Feb 2000 08:10:19 EST Subject: Re: 3 chilling stories << It was NOT treyf to work in Europe. It was not treyf to be part of the world. What happened? And who changed it? Who made these new rules that are clearly driven by fear of coping? >> Ms. Friedman has hit the nail on the head -- be it fear of coping or fear of copying (perhaps a typo) Who or what are we afraid of? Carl Singer ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Mordechai <Phyllostac@...> Date: Mon, 7 Feb 2000 03:28:14 EST Subject: The Air of Eretz Yisroel makes one Wise (was why not make aliya) Leah Amdur <amdur@...> wrote << Chazel say that the air of Jerusalem makes one wise. >> That statement appears only once in the Talmud - in Bava Basra 158. Also see Tosafos Psachim 51 (thanks to CD-Daf for references). There also is a somewhat similar (midrashic I believe) saying, by the way, namely 'ain Torah kiToras Eretz Yisroel' (there is no Torah like the Torah of the land of Israel). I would like to make a few points, as follows - 1) It says the air of eretz Yisroel makes one wise - not the air of Yerushalayim. Could one perhaps speculate that if the air of all of Israel is machkim (makes one wise) the air of Yerushalayim all the more so? It doesn't say so, though perhaps an argument could be made for it... 2) What is the practical import of the statement? After all - we follow the Babylonian Talmud -and not the Jerusalem Talmud, when they clash, despite the above saying. Perhaps one could interpret it in the following way - that all other things being equal, it (air of holy land) is a plus - but not necessarily decisive and outweighing everything else... 3) If a tipesh [fool] goes on aliya, does he automatically become a chochom (wise man)? Perhaps it depends on one's spiritual level / ability to receive... 4) Does it mean the air is machkim in everything? only in mili dishmaya (spiritual matters) ? 5) Does it mean all Israelis are therefore chachamim (wise people) ? 6) Another thought - the holy air makes one wise...but what happens if the air (atmosphere?) is polluted, G-d forbid - ...spiritually / physically ? Perhaps 'air' means the environment - not necessarily [only?] the literal air. Perhaps being in the cradle of our faith enables one to understand it better [e.g. Biblical tales, by understanding geography better,etc.]. 7) Is it possible at all to interpret it in a physical sense (in addition to / instead of a spiritual sense) ? Perhaps the air of EY (Eretz Yisroel) is more healthy [due to varied topography,etc, of land, e.g. mountains] than that of Bavel [plain] ? A gutten chodesh - Mordechai ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Josh Backon <BACKON@...> Date: Mon, 7 Feb 2000 13:04 +0200 Subject: Re: Aliya Those who use the gemara in Ketuvot 111a (three oaths) not to come on Aliya should read the answers that Rav Shlomo Aviner gave that retorted this claim. Apart from the Avnei Nezer who wrote that that the oath doesn't apply when the nations of the world give permission for the Jews to return (e.g. Balfour Declaration), he brings the Eim Habanim Semeicha of Rav Teichtel who showed that the oath was no longer valid since the gentiles severely persecuted the Jews. He also brings the Hafla'a who indicated that the oaths were only for those in galut bavel; R. Chaim Vital who indicated that the oaths were valid only for 1000 years (from the time of the Amoraim); the GRA who indicted that the oaths applied only to the issur of building the Bet Hamikdash. Josh Backon Jerusalem ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Melech Press <mpress@...> Date: Mon, 7 Feb 2000 09:10:58 -0500 Subject: Chilling stories I have only recently had time to return to following Mail-Jewish so I am entering the middle of a conversation. None the less, I want to comment on the psychological naivete of the discussion about chilling stories of those who went to college and why they have abandoned Judaism. The assumption made by some of the participants that the problem is one of intellectual preparation and that failure to survive in a hostile world is the result of intellectual unpreparedness or lack of "vaccination" is simply wrong. This is not the place for an extended discussion of the psychological research on influence processes; suffice it to say that there is essentially no way to protect adherents of a minority culture from majority influence if they are not intimately involved in their own cultural milieu. Almost no one I have dealt with in thirty years of clinical practice in the religious community has abandoned faith because of intellectual questions. Faith is primarily abandoned because of various psychological causes, either internal or external. The assumption is further proven false by the results of Modern Orthodox education and its failure to enable its products to withstand the pressures of the university world. If Dr. Parness and others were correct, such students would do better when faced by the challenges of college. One has only to speak to teachers in such schools or to personnel on campuses to discover the dramatic drop out rate for students who go to settings without strong Orthodox communities. (I might note that my daughter, a graduate student at Princeton, has observed consistently that many of the Modern Orthodox undergraduate students she has met at the CJL are Orthoprax to some degree but not believers. Of course, this remains anecdotal evidence.) I am not prepared to argue for isolation, since it causes me pain to think of my own grandchildren as intellectual primitives. However, if I had to choose between observance and enlightenment, there is no question. Much of the discussion of this issue seems not to believe that commitment to the modern world pales to insignificance compared to commitment to Torah. If so, perhaps we should start by reevaluating our intellectual givens. Melech M. Press, Ph.D. Professor of Psychology, Touro College <mpress@...> or melechp@touro.edu ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: David Charlap <shamino@...> Date: Mon, 07 Feb 2000 11:22:48 -0500 Subject: Re: Copying disks Steve Leichman describes a scenario where he wants to try a company's software product prior to purchasing it. He doesn't want to purchase it in advance, knowing that the publisher will not allow him to return it if it doesn't work as expected. He asks about copying a friend's copy to use for a trial until he can decide to purchase or erase it. Under US copyright law, this would not be legal. Try-before-buy can only be done at the discression of the copyright holder. I assume the publisher here doesn't have such a policy or you would have exercised it already. (If you're not sure, check to see if they have trial-size versions available.) Some companies will make evaluation copies of a program available. You may have to sign a contract obligating you to purchase or destroy the program after a set period of time, or you may get a copy that stops working after a set date. You might want to check into this, although I've only seen this policy for programs that cost thousands of dollars. In terms of the halacha, I don't know. CYLOR. IMO, I would not make the copy. I would, however, see if I can run it on my friend's computer for a few hours (perhaps longer) to try and come to the buy/no-buy decision. This avoids all complications. -- David ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Esther Zar <ESTABESTAH@...> Date: Sun, 6 Feb 2000 17:46:51 EST Subject: Re: Halacha and Cosmetic Surgery I found in sefer otzar dinim siman 36:3 from Harav Ovadya Yosef the following (I'll translate) "It is permissible for a woman to have plastic surgery in order to beautify herself and so that they will 'jump' on her to be mekadesh her (marry her)." In the footnotes Harav Ovadya Shlita expands on the background of the halacha and cites supplementary sources regarding same. the category he places this procedure into is :"Hachovel Be'atzmo" literally meaning : the one who damages himself (is one allowed to in other words) He quotes bava kama 90 and gemara bk 91. Regarding this general topic, Rav Ovadya is backed by the RiF and RaMBaM. He then goes on to say that this topic altogether is disputed amongst the achronim if this issur of chovel be'atzmo is from the Torah or from the Rabbis. He quotes the Meiri that it's an issur medivrei sofrim. For more "inside" information- look in Shu"t Yabiya Omer-Section 1, page 171:alef where he also brings in the RaN amongst others. I think we should just keep in mind the following: Rav Ovadya was not specific as to what physical flaw would stand in the way of one getting married. I wonder if Rav Ovadya would consider a bump in the nose as something that would deem surgery rather than someone who has 2 noses and needs to get rid of one. ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Carl Singer <CARLSINGER@...> Date: Sun, 6 Feb 2000 09:59:08 EST Subject: Little things - habits and customary derech Gut voch and a Gutten Choidesh Yesterday before Mincha a seemingly insignificant incident occurred that caused me pause. Sitting down near me (we have bench seats in our shule) was a fine young man, a "smicha student" -- from a secular background, but now deeply engrossed in limudei kodesh. He was holding a siddur which he then placed flat next to him as he sat. As I child I had learned never to do that -- perhaps stricter than some, I never place a siddur or chumash on a bench next to me -- either I hold it, or put it on top of my tallis bag, etc. Others I know say it's "ok" if the siddur is standing on end (upright.) A couple of weeks ago my 9 year old remarked to me that some people kissing the mezuzah were using their left hand and that his Rebbe had taught him to use only his right hand. There are a number of similar things (customs) that we learn as a children -- these often become second nature -- habits. I'm not so much interested in their origin, the variations on the theme, or the sources as I am in the dissemination of these "things" -- How could a learned Rabbinic student not know the proper respect for a siddur (or maybe someone has taught him that it doesn't matter - -maybe I'm "wrong") -- How can balabatim not have ingrained in them the habit (not only "custom" but "habit") to use their right hand when kissing a mezuzah. Any thoughts? Carl Singer ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Chaim Shapiro <Dagoobster@...> Date: Sun, 6 Feb 2000 23:38:33 EST Subject: Masada and suicide I have never fully understood why the people at Masada felt it necessary to commit mass suicide. Philosophically speaking, although we do not rely on G-d's miracles, we should not despair them, as a person can be saved even from the worst circumstances at the very last minute. Why did the Masada leadership feel it better to take matters into their hands, rather then allow G-d's plan to take its course? While I shudder to ask this (and Avi if you think it is too controversial please omit it [while difficult to discuss, I think valid to ask. Avi]), how did their situation differ from individuals about to be shipped off to W.W.II Concentration Camps? Chaim Shapiro ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Chaim Mateh <chaimm@...> Date: Sun, 06 Feb 2000 19:36:04 +0200 Subject: Mechitza In v31#37, Tszvi Klugerman <Klugerman@...> asked: << I am interested in sources which delineate the measurements of a mechitza for a synagogue and innovations in design of mechitzot for the synagogue.>> Rav Moshe Feinstein discusses the Mechitza in very great detail, including size (I think the minimum height is 60 inches), and some designs (he talks about latticed mechitza and glass/mirror, I think). The Yad Moshe index of Igross Moshe lists 28 responsa about Mechitza in general and 13 responsa about the height of the Mechitza. If you can't get access to the index, let me know and I'll list the responsa for you. There is also a book with sources called Sanctity of the Synagogue (forgot by whom) which describes the court case in America (in the 50-60s I think) against removing the Mechitza in an originally Orthodox Shul where most of the members became Conservative. It talks more about the issue and need for Mechitza itself rather than the measurements. I don't recall if it mentions measurements at all. Kol Tuv, Chaim ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Gershon Dubin <gershon.dubin@...> Date: Mon, 7 Feb 2000 09:56:16 -0500 Subject: Parnuseh and Education > From: Carl Singer <CARLSINGER@...> <<As my friend Jerry Parness (MD & PhD) points out you can't be all too certain, even at Y.U.>> <snip> <<I would dare say that it's not the choice of university but the home that influences the children.>> It should be clear that there are home influences, outside (e.g., but not only, university) influences and peer influences on any child's decisions on how much of Judaism to make their own. If your friend, who has such a fine home, makes the first quote, then how can you ignore that in making the second quote? If you say every single morning "al tevienu liydai nisayon" (do not bring us into a situation where our values will be tested), how can you ignore the nisayon (test) inherent in a secular university? Except for rare circumstances, the need to make a living will entail some exposure to the outside world. It is our responsibility to make that as minimally tempting to impressionable young adults as possible. YU may not be a guarantee, but how can you justify putting kids in situations where their Jewish values will be that much more tested? Parnasa is important, but given that we believe that it comes ultimately from Hashem, can we risk (our own or our children's) committment to Hashem to make it "easier" for Him to provide? Gershon ----------------------------------------------------------------------
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