Volume 53 Number 60 Produced: Fri Jan 5 6:52:41 EST 2007 Subjects Discussed In This Issue: Anthropologist View of "Charedi" View of Bus Attack [Freda B Birnbaum] Bus Segregation [Shoshana Ziskind] A Cheredi View of the Bus Attack (2) [Eitan Fiorino, Frank Silbermann] Response to Bus Attack (2) [SBA, Avi Feldblum] Segregated Buses [Ari Trachtenberg] Segregation and treatment of women [Leah Aharoni] Women, Men on Buses [Sarah Beck] ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Freda B Birnbaum <fbb6@...> Date: Thu, 4 Jan 2007 08:54:11 -0500 (EST) Subject: Anthropologist View of "Charedi" View of Bus Attack Tzvi Stein, in his anthropologist-like view from the other side, asks us to hold our emails as he is only describing what he sees. Point taken; I've studied a bit of anthropology. I think he has described the viewpoint accurately. However, when he says: > These takanos are a good idea. A previous terrorist attack on the > same #2 bus line was linked to the mixture of men and women on buses. > (He attributes this linkage to a prominent Israeli rav, whose name I > prefer not to repeat, out of respect). and, > I repeat... these are not my personal views, so please hold your emails! The view of respect to this rav WAS Tzvi's view, so I reply: Out of respect to whom? To the views? To the rav? If the man wants his views out there, he shouldn't be sheltered like this. As to respect for this sort of thing, well, YMMV. And many thanks to Leah Gordon for her powerful piece in the same issue. It's fine to ask us to understand them. Let them try to understand us for a change. Freda Birnbaum "Call on God, but row away from the rocks" (apparently literally necessary in some settings) ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Shoshana Ziskind <shosh@...> Date: Thu, 4 Jan 2007 08:33:53 -0500 Subject: Re: Bus Segregation On Jan 3, 2007, at 5:57 AM, Leah Aharoni <leah25@...> wrote: > BTW, some of you might remember that 10 or 15 years ago a woman was > assaulted on a private segregated Manhattan-Monsey bus for sitting on > the men's side. That story created a lot of controversy too, but > apparently things haven't changed much. I wasn't aware of the controversy but I noticed that when they put up that mechitza it actually can be worse for tsnius. One time I was visiting a friend in KJ of all places and I took the Monroe bus. There is no way really to see if anyone is getting up and walking on the other side of the mechitza and I bumped into men a few times! Ironically if I had been able to see them I would have been able to stay clear of them. And this was one round trip bus experience. (and people weren't davening) Otherwise, I personally find that having seperate seating with one side women and one side men not to bad (without the assaulting component!) The belems bus, OBM in Israel was extremely reasonable and I took it a number of times to Yerushalyim and a couple of times to Bnei Brak and never had a problem. It had no mechitza but women on one side and men on the other. Maybe people who took it more often can remember more problems but it worked out pretty decently IIRC. -Shoshana Ziskind ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Eitan Fiorino <AFiorino@...> Date: Thu, 4 Jan 2007 08:58:18 -0500 Subject: RE: A Cheredi View of the Bus Attack Tzvi Stein relayed a chareidi view of the bus attack, and while there's plenty of fodder for criticism/discussion in what was posted, one point in particular disturbed me: > - These takanos are a good idea. A previous terrorist attack on > the same #2 bus line was linked to the mixture of men and women on > buses. (He attributes this linkage to a prominent Israeli rav, > whose name I prefer not to repeat, out of respect). I think when it comes to exposing idiocy and statements/behaviors that are spiritually destructive and theologically incorrect, the communal need of knowing which rabbis to avoid overrides kavod harav. Thus, I think on the contrary, one should not "hide out of respect" the name of this Israeli rabbi who apparently claimed that a bus or busses were blown up because of mixed seating. Rather his name should be publicized so that people of faith and common sense (here I am speaking of myself and I hope others as well) will know to avoid him, and to insure that none of their charitable contributions go to any institution with which he is affiliated. After all, I'm sure this person took great pride in his brilliant Torah insight (or was he zocheh to a direct communication from God?) that hakadosh baruch hu sent a suicide bomber to that s'dom on wheels as a punishment for men sitting next to women, so your sense of tzniut on his behalf is misplaced, particularly given the communal need. -Eitan ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Frank Silbermann <fs@...> Date: Thu, 4 Jan 2007 10:48:41 -0600 (CST) Subject: A Cheredi View of the Bus Attack Tzvi Stein <Tzvi.Stein@...> reports on one Haredi's view (V53 N54); > - These takanas about tznius on buses were enacted by the gedolei > haDor, and thus all Jews are obligated to adhere to them. But if the majority do not and never did adhere to the takanas, then (al pi halacha) the takanas are nullified, are they not? Indeed, most orthodox Jews worldwide (never mind most Jews in general) do not segregate themselves by sex on buses. At most, one could say that the majority do so on certain routes for which the haredi communities have made a deal with Egged with the acquiesce of the state for the sake of maintaining Egged's monopoly in those neighborhoods. The takanas could not not apply on any other Egged bus routes, as the gedolei haDor would be halachly obligated to repeal them. Frank Silbermann Memphis, Tennessee <fs@...> ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: SBA <sba@...> Date: Fri, 5 Jan 2007 01:30:12 +1100 Subject: Re: Response to Bus Attack From: Abbi Adest <> > I think this violent incident is a direct consequence of corrupted > halachic thinking, as were the violent riots in Yerushalayim > protesting the gay parade, as were the massive coverups of sexual > predators that are now coming to light. You forgot to mention the sinking of the Titanic... Let's bring some common sense into this discussion, rather than whip up a lynching... 1) There has been no follow-up on this 'lady in th ebus' story at all, thus at least suggesting that those blogs that claimed that the whole story was 'lo haya velo nivra' may have more than a kernel of truth. 2) EVEN if it did happen - in which case I condemn the perpetuators no less than anyone else here - there are hundreds (thousands) of buses cruisng the cities of Israel daily. There are tens (hundreds) of thousands Charedi men travelling on these buses daily, yet such a story pops up only once in a blue moon, clearly indicating that it is a rarity. 3) Again, if this story really happened, we have no idea about the background of this violent passenger. The chances are that he could very well be one of those crazy BTs who take matters too far (a la Baruch Goldstein). Whilst BH, the VAST majority of BT succeed in living normal, decent and halachik lives, there are also a few (and most of us know of them) who were a bit crazy before and just as crazy after 'seeing the light'. To blacken the reputation of a entire community of hundreds of thousands by using examples of the bahviour of some nutcases is unfair and wrong. And then to make a ridculous statement that this "is a direct consequence of corrupted halachic thinking" is simply being Motzi Shem Ra and spouting pure sheker about the majority of observant Jews. OTOH, I will withdraw everything I have written here, if you can show us that the rabbinic leadership and Roshei Yeshivos encourage this kind of behaviour. But until then I request that you refrain from accusing good Jews of doing bad things. SBA ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Avi Feldblum <feldblum@...> Date: Fri, 5 Jan 2007 Subject: Re: Response to Bus Attack SBA, I do not understand what you mean in item 1 above that there has been "no follow-up" to the story, and that the whole thing is "lo haya velo nivra". The women's name is well known, her first hand report of the events is available, the Israeli papers reported on the event, the woman filed a police report on the event and the incident is being used in a legal challenge to the entire "mehadrin" bus system working it's way in the Israeli court system. Whether the Miriam's account of the events are 100% accurate is not something that can be easily determined since non of us were there, but having read the account, I would tend to believe it. Your points 2 & 3 above are very correct. There is no question in my mind that these type of events are not the norm. The problem as I see it is that there is this group of chareidi "hooligens" that are doing actions that reflect very poorly on the Chereidi community as a whole. It is late and I need to get this out, but I think there are two major issues here. One is that while this may be an exception rather than the rule, I think that what would be needed is a strong response from the Charedi leadership that this type of activity is not permitted. I am sure that if anyone described the events as known at this point to any posek in the Chareidi community, he would say that there is no question, the behaviour is "sh'lo k'halacha" - not what halacha dictates. One cannot assult another person. But that is not enough. There must be a more pro-active response from the leadership. It appears that they do not see that as important. A second issue, which I think does play into what Abbi posted, is that I believe there has been a significant decline within the Charedi community over the last 50 years of level of respect / kavod habreos for the "other", whether the other is the non-Jew or the other is a non-religous Jew or a religous Jew but of some different group. For the majority, this may just be reflected as a lack of respect. But I think it is this attitude that in the minority allows the growth of the Charedi "hooligin". Avi Feldblum <feldblum@...> ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Ari Trachtenberg <trachten@...> Date: Thu, 04 Jan 2007 09:04:34 -0500 Subject: Re: Segregated Buses > From: Leah S. Gordon <leah@...> > A personal example--when my husband and I were last driving in B'nei > B'rak and had to ask directions, we pulled over and the two > [black-hat] men whom I asked [nicely, in Hebrew] just kept walking > until my husband leaned over and asked them instead. I'd like to thank Leah for an excellent response to this very disturbing incident. However, I think that it's not really halachic misogyny at work here. I have gotten ignored a number of times along the charedi streets of Jerusalem, despite being dressed modestly [as far as I know] and being clearly male (although I do dress like the religious Zionist I am, knitted kippah and all, and my wife will wear pants in public with me). It seems to me that part of the issue is a classic political power struggle, independent of halacha, in which several different groups are fighting to gain full control of their own environments (broadly defined). Best, Ari Trachtenberg, Boston University http://people.bu.edu/trachten mailto:<trachten@...> ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Leah Aharoni <leah25@...> Date: Thu, 04 Jan 2007 16:14:00 +0200 Subject: Segregation and treatment of women I wholeheartedly agree with Leah Gordon's remarks about bus segregation and treatment of women as transparent. The danger of extra chumrot leading to insensitivity and kulot in a other halachot is very clear. Chazal were aware of this danger and explicitly warned men again chasidut shota - refuse to save a drowning woman because he doesn't want to look at her. I am sure many of us have witnessed men's silent refusal to vacate their seats in favor of pregnant women or women with children, or their refusal to help a women in need, just because women are treated as transparent. Hesed is mitzva deoraita, as is the prohibition against embarrassing people. Not talking to women is a chumra around a chumra (chazal enjoined man not to talk TOO MUCH with women, but made no prohibition against carrying a short business-like conversation where necessary). Here are two stories to illustrate. While flying alone with two children, I asked 2 haredi young men to change seats with me so that my 5 year old daughter could sit in the same row with me. They gave me the hat treatment (despite my modest clothing) and said they don't understand. On a different trip (once again alone with two kids), while standing in line for passport control at the Moscow airport a young Russian policeman approached me and walked me to the beginning of the line (in his mind a woman alone with children should be given preferential treatment). I would hate to think that a Russian goy has better midos and better upbringing than our own yungerlite! Leah Aharoni ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Sarah Beck <beckse@...> Date: Thu, 4 Jan 2007 14:07:34 -0500 Subject: Women, Men on Buses As long as we're brandishing scarves, we could be dropping them (in a loving, Torahdik way) over the heads of the oglers. In all seriousness, I would not have a problem, in practice!, with this separate seating if it were men on one side, women on the other. If anyone asks me my _personal_opinion_ on the practice of separate seating outside of shul, I would reply that back South we actually do learn about Jim Crow in elementary school, and apartheid in middle school, and the Black train car case whose name I shamefully forget (anyone?) in high school, and every schoolkid worldwide would hardly be harmed by the broadening experience of studies like that. I think that the apologists for the back of the bus would probably sing a different tune if their own mothers, or they themselves, had seen "colored" restrooms in their basically non-bigoted childhoods. But these buses don't run through my neighborhood, so I am hard put to effect change from within. But do I shrink from calling it Jim Crow? Nope. If Egged wants to perpetrate it from without, I hardly have standing, from the cozy confines of the Interborough Rapid Transit, to do anything about it. Kol_tuv, SB ----------------------------------------------------------------------
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