Volume 56 Number 79 Produced: Mon, 15 Jun 2009 18:29:42 EDT Subjects Discussed In This Issue: Asher Yatzar after childbirth (4) [Fay Berger Martin Stern Martin Stern Ken Bloom] Gabbai's prerogative (2) [David I. Cohen Joel Rich] Info About Baron Ernst Von Manstein- Abraham Ben Abraham Von Manstein [Dr. Sanford R. Silverstein] kol hanearim in Apt [<JoshHoff@...>] Kosher Meal on a Plane [Aharon Fischman] Not Treating Fellow Jews like a slave? (2) [Perry Zamek Saul Mashbaum] Pictures of Jerusalem on Flickr [Jacob Richman] Rebbe as Moshiach? [Ari Trachtenberg] The name of the Amora Plimo [Michael Poppers] Wearing a Yarmulke to Work [Steven Pudell] ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Ken Bloom <kbloom@...> Date: Wed, Jun 10,2009 at 02:01 AM Subject: Asher Yatzar after childbirth Perhaps Chazal weren't m'taken [make an edict] that women should say Asher Yatzar after childbirth because the pain of childbirth is considered broken, whereas going to the bathroom is considered proper functioning of the body. Before the chait [sin] of Adam and Chava, Chava could indeed deliver without pain, but because of the chait, Hashem broke that and made her bodily function in this regard suboptimal. Though I have to explain why even someone with diarrhea or other illness says Asher Yatzar. Or perhaps that's because the process of childbirth is life threatening as a rule (so there are problems with the beracha's implication that when everything's working properly we can survive), while illnesses that affect the excretory system (though uncomfortable) are not life threatening as a rule. --Ken ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Fay Berger <juniperviv@...> Date: Wed, Jun 10,2009 at 08:01 AM Subject: Asher Yatzar after childbirth The Rabbi Sir Jonathan Sacks Koren siddur has a Thanksgiving Prayer after childbirth on page 1031. Fay Berger ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Martin Stern <md.stern@...> Date: Fri, Jun 12,2009 at 02:01 AM Subject: Asher Yatzar after childbirth On Tue, Jun 2,2009, Batya Medad <ybmedad@...> wrote: > The custom here is "benching gomel," since technically, medically and > halachikly there are serious dangers to life for the mother. This should be halachah rather than custom but it seems that women do not generally bench gomel in practice. The main reason seems to be the need for a minyan and that, in former times, women did not go to the large gatherings of men required. > If I'm not mistaken at the time of the Mishkan and Beit HaMikdash > a woman gave a Korban Chattat. That is correct and, I suppose, should the Beit Hamikdash be re-established, women then alive would be obligated to bring their kinnim for each and every birth. There would then probably be an extreme shortage of doves. > In some (or all if you're looking for a new custom) cases, a Se'udat Hodaya > would be a good idea. I agree though it might be a bit strenuous for the new mother. Perhaps combining it with the seudat brit would be a better way after the birth of a boy. This would also ensure the presence of a minyan. > A neighbor holds by the psak that the post partum mother may bench gomel > with a minyan of women. Except that there is no such thing. However it is possible that a minyan in the technical sense is not required but rather 10 people in order to publicize the matter - a bit like reading the megillah. Tsarich iyun. Martin Stern ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Martin Stern <md.stern@...> Date: Fri, Jun 12,2009 at 10:01 AM Subject: Asher Yatzar after childbirth On Mon, Jun 8,2009, Russell J Hendel <rjhendel@...> wrote: > Because Childbirth is classified as a "life threatening emergency" one > is required to bless the Gomel (The thanksgiving blessing after being > saved from a life threatening emergency). But the Gomel is sort of a > super blessing covering "all aspects of the emergency." By contrast > the Asher Yatzar is a particular blessing covering the miracle of body > orifices (Other things can go wrong during labor). The problem is that in practice most women do not ever bench gomel [say the prayer after experiencing danger], certainly not after returning from a journey over the seas or deserts or after recovery from illness. This is probably because the berachah needs a minyan and, in former times, a woman would have been embarrassed to appear in public for this purpose. I do not know if many men bench gomel when released from prison nowadays - probably they are also too embarrassed to admit to having committed a crime that has given rise to the custodial sentence. Martin Stern ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: David I. Cohen <bdcohen@...> Date: Thu, Jun 11,2009 at 10:01 PM Subject: Gabbai's prerogative Let me add my thanks to the chorus, to all those, especially Avi, who got MJup and running again. Stuart Pilchowskiwrote: > Concerning one practice that I've tried to further is giving a mourner > the final aliyah before kaddish so he can say the kaddish- and not > the baal koreh or the shachrit chazan. It is my understanding that originally this chatzi kaddish [half kaddish] was said by the baal shacharit [leader for the morning prayer], but was changed (due to the inconvenience of re-calling the baal shacharit back) to having it said by the baal koreh [Torah reader]. Is there a source for having it said by a mourner? Or having it said by the person who gets the last aliya? Or both? Without sources or an established minhag [custom], one should be reluctant to make a change even if it feels good. David I. Cohen ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Joel Rich <JRich@...> Date: Thu, Jun 11,2009 at 08:01 PM Subject: Gabbai's prerogative Stu Pilichowski wrote: > Concerning one practice that I've tried to further is giving a mourner > the final aliyah before kaddish so he can say the kaddish - and not > the baal koreh or the shachrit chazan. Arie wrote: > To my best knowledge, the baal kriah does not have to be the one to say > kaddish. > > In our shul we often have an aveil go to the bimah and say kaddish after > shvi'i on shabbat instead of the baal kriah. Would you allow a different person to go up to say the chatzi [half] kaddish before yishtabach? In any event, I do recall seeing someone bring down (really where or when) that the kaddish should be said by the baal korei [reader] specifically to show it's not "up for grabs" - but I have frequently seen the practice you describe. KT Joel Rich ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Dr. Sanford R. Silverstein <Sandyeye@...> Date: Wed, Jun 10,2009 at 12:01 PM Subject: Info About Baron Ernst Von Manstein- Abraham Ben Abraham Von Manstein While this request is not the usual fare of Mail Jewish, I am hoping that some of your members might have some information about the man described below. While doing research into the history of the Jews of Bavaria, Germany, I came upon the name Baron Ernst von Manstein. Manstein was a member of a prominent military family. [he was the Uncle of Field Marshal Erich von Manstein] He was born in 1869 in Prussia. He came to Wurzburg Germany and sometime in the 1890s converted to Orthodox Judaism. He became a part of the Jewish community of Wurzberg. In the 1890s he married a woman considerably older than he was and who was also a convert to Judaism. During the Nazi years he taught in a Jewish school in Wurzburg. In 1942 the remaining Jews of the city were ordered to report to the railroad station for deportation to the Theresianstadt concentration camp. Manstein appeared with the other Jews in his Tallis and T'fillin. The SS guards who knew him told him that he was not a Jew, and that he should return to his home. Echoing the words of Ruth, Manstein said, "Where the Jews go, I go." He was allowed to join the transport. He died in Theresianstadt, probably of starvation, in 1944. The uniqueness of this story intrigues me. If any of your contributors have any knowledge of Baron von Manstein, I would appreciate hearing from them. I would especially like some insight on his reasons for conversion. In the Jewish community he was known as Abraham ben Abraham von Manstein. Dr. Sanford R. Silverstein <sandyeye@...> ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: <JoshHoff@...> Date: Thu, Jun 11,2009 at 08:01 PM Subject: kol hanearim in Apt The other night I went to the Jewish Museum as part of the Museum Mile night, and spent a lot of time at an exhibit of paintings by Mayer Kirshenblatt, father of the cultural anthropologist Barbra Kerenblatt Gimblatt. Under her encouragement, Kirshenblatt painted scenes of his boyhood home of Apt (Opatow), which he left in 1934 at the age of 17. I did not look at the book that his daughter published containing the paintings, so I don't know to what extent, if any, she commented on the reliability of the memory of a man in his late 80s, and now early 90s, in depicting a town which he left when he was 17, but I do have a question about one of the paintings. In a painting of the Simchas Torah scene at night in his shul in Apt, he has a man holding a sefer Torah in front of a group of children carrying a talis over their heads as a chupah. In the explanation provided for the painting, it says that all the sifre Torah were taken out of the aron so that everyone would have a chance to dance with one. However, the children were too young to carry one, so instead they appointed a 'malach,' a man to carry one for them, and they walked behind under a makeshift chupa. Does anyone know if there was any such minhag [custom] (perhaps it is some kind of Polish or chassidic minhag?) or was he just confusing the minhag of the aliyah of kol hanearim [the children's aliyah] (e.g. the 'malach' he mentions is really a confusion based on the recitation of hamalach hagoel [the angel who redeems me ... typically a children's prayer based on Genesis 48:16]) and switching it from Kerias HaTorah [reading of the Torah] in the morning to hakafos at night? ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Aharon Fischman <afischman@...> Date: Thu, Jun 11,2009 at 08:01 PM Subject: Kosher Meal on a Plane Frank Smiles said > Has this happened to anyone else. I was in Madison Wisconsin and the meal that the hotel from Teaneck had a similar problem - the meal was double wrapped - but in tinfoil and plastic so there was no way of heating up the food. I ended up finding (with the kitchen's help) a clean Chinese food container and wrapped that in Saran Wrap so I could then microwave dinner. Overall it was an interesting trip :) Aharon Fischman <afischman@...> ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Perry Zamek <perryza@...> Date: Thu, Jun 11,2009 at 10:01 PM Subject: Not Treating Fellow Jews like a slave? David Curwin asked: > I once heard a shiur that said that there's a prohibition against treating a > fellow Jew like a slave. The example given was that you shouldn't leave > something for someone else to clean up (in a restaurant for example), just > because they're an employee. > Is anyone familiar with this concept? Do you know where it is mentioned in the > halachic sources? I don't have a Torah Temimah to hand for the source in Sha"s [Mishnah/Talmud] (it's packed in readiness for a house move), but you should look at the passage in Parshat Behar (Vayikra 26:39-46), about a Jewish servant. The Torah stresses that one should not work him be'farech [harshly], which Rashi explains as "unnecessary labour" - work that the servant is made to do when there is no need for it. Rashi gives the example of asking the servant to heat up a cup (of water?) when the master has no intention of using it. Carl Singer cited the issue of the busboy's parnassah (livelihood) being from clearing tables, unlike fast food places where one is expected to clear one's own tray. Although this is not a master-servant relationship, it is clear that leaving work for someone to do that would otherwise not be part of their duties, would be an issue in the spirit of this law, although not the letter of the law. Perry Zamek ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Saul Mashbaum <saul.mashbaum@...> Date: Sun, Jun 14,2009 at 04:01 PM Subject: Not Treating Fellow Jews like a slave? > I once heard a shiur that said that there's a prohibition against treating a > fellow Jew like a slave. I don't know what the shiur-giver had in mind, but there is such a halachic principle. The Jews are called slaves of Hashem, and chazal [our sages] say "Slaves of Hashem, and not slaves of slaves", meaning that Jews are not slaves of other Jews. This principle is the basis of the law that an employee has the right to quit at any time, even if he agreed to work for a certain period; not being able to quit is a slave-like condition. The laws of employees are detailed in SA ChM [Shulkhan Arukh, Choshen Mishpat] 333, and of course many conditions are set forth there. The poskim [rabbinical deciders] deal with the applicability of these laws to current employment practice, based on the premise that the essential principle is still valid. As far as I know, the halachic principle I am referring to has nothing to do with the work an employee is expected to do in a diner. If someone of his free volition contracts to do a certain job, it would seem that expecting him to do this job is not treating him as a slave. Saul Mashbaum ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Jacob Richman <jrichman@...> Date: Thu, Jun 11,2009 at 10:01 AM Subject: Pictures of Jerusalem on Flickr Hi Everyone! I created a new section on my Jerusalem hotsites page for pictures of Jerusalem on Flickr. The address is: http://www.jr.co.il/hotsites/i-jer.htm#flickr Enjoy! Shabbat Shalom, Jacob ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Ari Trachtenberg <trachten@...> Date: Wed, Jun 10,2009 at 03:57 PM Subject: Rebbe as Moshiach? I just finished reading David Berger's controversial book "The Rebbe, the Messiah, and the Scandal of Orthodox Indifference", which decries the Orthodox community's silence at the Messianization (in some cases purported Deification) of the Lubavitcher Rebbe (zt"l) after his death. Though I largely agree with Berger's conclusions (full disclosure: my most recent shul for five years was a Chabad shul), I am left with some fundamental questions: 1. Is there an accessible rebuttal to his book? I am aware of Chaim Rapport 's "The Messiah Problem: Berger, the Angel and the Scandal of Reckless Indiscrimnation", but this is going for about $280 on amazon.com! 2. It appears that many g'dolei hador ([Jewish] leaders of the generation) have remained silent on this issue. What are the (halachic) impediments to taking a stand, one way or the other? I realize that this is an issue that can quite literally tear apart the Jewish community. At the same time, I feel that it is important enough for some public discussion, and I feel that a moderated form like mail-jewish could provide a forum for reasonable discussion without the emotionalism that can cause grave damage to the community. Thanks, -Ari ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Michael Poppers <MPoppers@...> Date: Thu, Jun 11,2009 at 04:01 PM Subject: The name of the Amora Plimo In M-J V56#72, Lisa Liel wrote: > ....And it may have been Phlimo. I mean, Feivel is spelled with an > initial peh, despite the rules of beged kefet. A WWW search strongly suggests that "Feivel" comes from the Greek "Phoebus," in which case I'm not sure that BGD KFTh rules apply :). (BTW, in Latin "ph" is pronounced as if the "p" had a sh'va na [Hebrew vowel]; I'm assuming that in Greek it's pronounced like the English "f" -- in terms of the classical pronunciation of a language which preceded Latin, that assumption may very well be incorrect, but the question is how "Phoebus" would have been pronounced prior to the creation of Yiddish and of the name "Feivel.") Thanks. All the best from Michael Poppers via RIM pager ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Steven Pudell <SPudell@...> Date: Thu, Jun 11,2009 at 08:01 PM Subject: Wearing a Yarmulke to Work When I was in law school about 16 or so years ago, I spoke to my rebbe about various "work issues" including wearing a yarmulke to interviews. He told me that he "recommended" not to do so. I disagreed and told him that I'd rather wear a yarmulke and "be myself". I interviewed for about 15 jobs and did not get any offers. (Now, there are other very plausible reasons why I didn't get jobs -- but the conventional wisdom is once you get an interview -- you have a good chance at getting an offer). I spoke to my rebbe again -- and he asked me if I was now prepared to "listen" to him. I received a job offer after the next interview. Again, there are MANY MANY possible explanations that have nothing to do with "yarmulkes" as to why I received this offer and not others. I would add thought that the person who interviewed and ultimately hired me -- knew I was "shomer shabbat" -- but knowing him after I worked for him -- I am confident that if I came in with a yarmulke it would have just been "too much" for him, and I would have not been hired. I would say however, now that I interview people for my firm -- I understand how "quickly" people make decisions/determinations. (See "Blink" by Malcolm Gladwell for some good examples about quickly and subconsciously we make decisions). I do not think any of the people who turned me down did so for anti Semitic (or even anti orthodox) reasons. More likely, they just "felt" that there were others who would be a better "fit" or that I would not be a good "fit." I would also say that after I was already working, I met a marketing consultant who told me that wearing a yarmulke to an interview is the equivalent of wearing a HUGE cross -- and that many people who saw that would be "turned off" and would not hire them. ----------------------------------------------------------------------
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