Volume 60 Number 30 Produced: Mon, 29 Aug 2011 09:15:33 EDT Subjects Discussed In This Issue: Anonymity [Martin Stern] Does Halacha require a person to make up a minyan? [Ralph Zwier] Kavod Hatorah [Martin Stern] Kojel [Frank Silbermann] Ledabbeir bam [Martin Stern] Public expression of mourning on Shabbat Chazon [Martin Stern] Rabbainu Tam tephillin (was Family Mesorah) [Martin Stern] Three Oaths [Yisrael Medad] Tzedakah (3) [Hillel (Sabba) Markowitz Chaim Casper Martin Stern] ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Martin Stern <md.stern@...> Date: Mon, Aug 29,2011 at 02:01 AM Subject: Anonymity I have noticed that in some newspapers, mainly those of a more chareidi ethos, letters to the editor often do not carry the author's name. While, in some exceptional circumstances, I would agree that this should be withheld so as to avoid embarrassing third parties, this is not usually at all evident in most cases. In my opinion, one should be prepared to stand by one's opinions and normally make one's name public, and not hide behind anonymity. What do others think? Martin Stern ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Ralph Zwier <ralph@...> Date: Wed, Aug 24,2011 at 06:01 AM Subject: Does Halacha require a person to make up a minyan? Here's a scenario: It's the advertised time in a shule for Mincha (the afternoon daily prayer). There are twelve men currently in the shule. None has davened Mincha yet. Seven of the men are learning (or perhaps talking). The other five want to begin Ashrei. Is one (or five) of the seven non-daveners required by Halacha to daven in order to allow tefilla betzibbur (a public prayer service) for the Shule itself? I put the above scenario to a group of knowledgeable colleagues expecting a yes or no answer. (Albeit with a bit of fuzziness at the "edges.") The question completely divided the discussion into two divergent camps. Any comments from MJers? Ralph Zwier Double Z Computer +613 9521 2188 ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Martin Stern <md.stern@...> Date: Sun, Aug 28,2011 at 05:01 PM Subject: Kavod Hatorah The minhag to which I am accustomed is that the shliach tsibbur [prayer leader] goes up to the Aron and the person given hotsa'ah vehachnasah [the honour of taking out the Sefer Torah and putting it back] hands the Sefer Torah to him. I have noticed that in some places the shliach tsibbur stays at the amud [lectern] and the Sefer Torah is brought down the steps to him. Another occurrence that also disturbed me was where the shliach tsibbur, when taking the Sefer Torah to the bimah [reading desk], made a detour so that some individual should not have to trouble himself to move from his place to kiss it. These struck me as showing a slight lack of respect for the Sefer Torah and I wonder what others think. Martin Stern ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Frank Silbermann <frank_silbermann@...> Date: Fri, Aug 19,2011 at 02:01 PM Subject: Kojel Ben Katz (MJ 60#29) wrote: > The halacha is that anything that is nifsal may-achilat kelev > (roughly translated as so disgusting even a dog wouldn't eat it) > is not food. (I would guess that this is not always to be taken literally -- under the assumption that excrement is probably considered to be "nifsal may-achilat kelev" -- as dogs do sometimes eat excrement.) > Bone dust is in this state according to everyone. Yes. > The Talmud never anticipated a situation where something > that is nifsal may-achilat kelev would then be reconstituted > to an edible state, thus the current machloket (difference of opinion). I am not convinced of that. For example, dirt is nifsal may-achilat kelev, yet it was known in the time of the Talmud that plants absorb matter from dirt and transform that matter into kosher food. The food may be kosher even if the plant's fertilizer stemmed from a nonkosher edible. I think the issue is not so much whether one believes "once nonfood -- always nonfood" because clearly no one believes that. I think the issue is whether one believes in "once non-food, no longer tref unless specifically made tref" (e.g. by being eaten by a tref animal). Or, it may be a situation in which American rabbis forbade gelatin on grounds of it being "non-kosherdik." This is analogous to the situation in which an activity involves no Shabbas-prohibited melacha, but being told not to engage in it on Shabbas on grounds that the activity is not Shabbasdik (i.e. not in the spirit of Shabbas). Frank Silbermann Memphis, Tennessee ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Martin Stern <md.stern@...> Date: Mon, Aug 29,2011 at 04:01 AM Subject: Ledabbeir bam In the second parsha of Kriat Shema there is a verse "Velimadtem otam et-beneichem ledabeir bam beshivtecha beveitecha ... [and you shall teach them to your children TO SPEAK ABOUT THEM when you sit in your house ...]". (Dev. 11,19) My problem with this is does it mean that the father should teach his children by speaking about the mitsvot at all times, or that the result of his teaching should be that the children speak about them at all times, or perhaps both. Martin Stern ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Martin Stern <md.stern@...> Date: Sat, Aug 27,2011 at 06:01 PM Subject: Public expression of mourning on Shabbat Chazon Once again this year on Shabbat Chazon, some people have raised objections to singing Lecha Dodi to the tune of Eli Tsion because they claim it violates the prohibition on displaying mourning practices publicly on Shabbat. I feel they are incorrect for several reasons. Firstly, most of us bring in Shabbat early in the summer so Lecha Dodi is sung long before sundown when Shabbat has not yet commenced (i.e. by accepting it with the saying of Mizmor Shir Leyom Hashabbat). Secondly, Eli Tsion itself is sung on Tisha be'Av when we stand up towards the end of the recitation of the kinot and, if anything, its lively tune, and reference to birth pangs that herald an imminent birth, carries the message of hope that the galut will end (cf. the Gemara at the end of Makot). Finally, those who object to this custom still read the haftarah (and the pasuk in the Torah beginning 'eichah') to the eichah niggun which is a much more public expression of mourning and is done at a time that is undoubtedly Shabbat. Any comments anyone? May this dispute be only of purely academic interest in the future with the rebuilding of the Beit Hamikdash, bimhera veyameinu. Martin Stern ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Martin Stern <md.stern@...> Date: Tue, Aug 23,2011 at 07:01 AM Subject: Rabbainu Tam tephillin (was Family Mesorah) Michael Poppers <MPoppers@...> wrote (MJ 60#28): > Carl Singer wrote (MJ 60#27): >> 3 - If you also use Rabbainu Tam tephillin .... > > Same basic answer: if one lives in a community where all men in the minyan are > expected to put on T'fillin l'shitas (according to the opinion of) Rabbeinu > Tam, one should do so; and I'm not aware of such a community. This can hardly be applied to visitors who do not possess Rabbainu Tam tephillin. Also it seems problematic to enforce the considerable extra expense involved in purchasing them on those who do not have the family custom to wear them. > I've known individuals who have switched t'filin during or after davening, and > all of them were well aware of the halachic issues involved; I have noticed people changing their tephillin immediately after kedushah during chazarat hashatz and have always been surprised to see this. Surely one should give one's undivided attention to his words and answer 'amen' knowing precisely to which brachah one is responding. Perhaps someone can explain how this strange custom arose. Martin Stern ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Yisrael Medad <ybmedad@...> Date: Sat, Aug 20,2011 at 04:01 PM Subject: Three Oaths Mois Navon (MJ 60#29) refers us to his essay on the subject of The Three Oaths of Jewish History. As an aside, I just picked up a recent publication of VaYoel Moshe with an explication, Bi'us Or Ki Tov. It is 1100 pages long! Each chapter is repeated with a commentary for every sub- paragraph. Published in Antwerp. And after reading Mois' article, can I congratulate him, I think, for managing not once to mention Satmar, VaYoel Moshe, Reb Yoilesh or Neturai Karta in it. Yisrael ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Hillel (Sabba) Markowitz <sabbahillel@...> Date: Fri, Aug 19,2011 at 02:01 PM Subject: Tzedakah Carl Singer <carl.singer@...> wrote (MJ 60#29) > For many of us tzedukah involves choices. And it's the time of year when > Tzedukah requests start flowing in. > > Halachically, we can iron out the "how much" -- the question then becomes > "to whom" -- both from a halachic and a social point of view. > > For example, do I write a check to a bona fide yeshiva, or do I donate to > someone coming to my door with a laminated, certificate from an unknown > source, etc. (Don't suggest, both -- in essence with a fixed tzedukah > budget or maximum, giving more to one means less for the other.) > > Please evaluate these scenarios. In all cases these are people from a > different community being driven here as a group by a driver who apparently > has a list of frum homes - and we're told he gets a percentage / > commission. > > 1. A strong young man comes to the door -- says he's out of work -- may > we offer him money to mow our lawn. > > 2. A woman comes to our door and says she needs to feed her children -- we > give her a bag filled with groceries. > > 3. Another young man comes to the door wreaking of cigarette smoke and says > that he needs funds to feed his family -- we tell him to give up smoking > and then come back. > > 4. Professional mailings from organizations that we've never heard of. > Usually, full color, with haunting pictures, etc. > > 5. Telephone calls from solicitors -- "May we put you down for $100?" -- Is > it OK to say that we do nothing over the telephone, please send us > literature -- And then is it OK to then tear up the request if it comes in > "Per our telephone call thank you for your generous pledge of $100." > > 6. Multiple requests from the same organization - We gave at Pesach and > then Shavout and soon Rosh Hashanah. 1. This is a question that depends on how much you can afford to give him for the work and how much time it would take. Since he is here from a different community, and would have only a limited time, it might not be possible for him to actually mow your lawn. On the other hand, if you have sufficient work for him to be able to move to your community, that might be possible. 2. Since she is not in your community, how would she get the food to her family? This is similar to ma'aser sheni, where the food had to be converted to money in order to get it to Yerushalayim. While it would normally be correct to give her the food, the fact that she would be unable to transport it, may require you to give her money. Similarly, if you shop at the same store that she does, perhaps you can then give her a gift certificate from that store. If you get enough people from wherever she comes from, perhaps you can arrange to get gift certificates (via the internet?) from her local store. 3. I am not sure about this as I would not know how much he actually spends on cigarettes. However, it might be better to say that you would give him more if he stops smoking. This would be a question for your LOR. 4. Since you do not know who they are, you did not request them, and you do not have any idea if they are frauds or not, there should be nothing wrong with discarding the mailings. This type of mailing is often done through an ad agency that takes a (hefty) percentage of the money. If it is indeed a valid organization and you want to give them money, then send the money directly to the organization (with a note that you do not answer ad agency campaigns). 5. I tell telephone solicitors explicitly that I *do not* pledge over the phone and if they want to send me something, I would look at it but not guarantee any amount. My wife says that I should just answer no and hang up. If they try to say "your pledge of $100", they would get less than what I might otherwise have sent them (or nothing at all). 6. If it is an organization that you ordinarily give to at a particular time, then send them at that time. Many organizations include a return envelope with the receipt (just in case you feel like giving). There is nothing wrong with discarding the appeal that you get too often. Perhaps when you do give, add a note that you will only give once a year or whatever interval that you prefer. If it is an organization that you do not give to, perhaps give them a minimal amount with a note asking to be taken off their mailing list. If they persist in sending to you, treat them like case number four. I know of some people who accumulate appeals and go through them at a particular time and answer them. Others (like me) keep track of maaser and try to keep the balance of maaser owed down around zero based on monthly income. YMMV. Some people give a certain amount to people who approach them (with a valid certificate) because they have put in a personal effort (like $1 to the people who come to the minyan during the week). My community (Baltimore) has a certificate for everybody who collects which has a photo ID and certifies that the person has been checked out, is valid, and why they are collecting. The certificate also has a recommendation on it such as "Single Meal", "Standard Amount", "Generous Amount", etc. I have been told that other communities trust our certificate even though it is meant for our community and for a specific period of time. Everyone who comes to the door knows that they must have this certificate. Hillel (Sabba) Markowitz ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Chaim Casper <surfflorist@...> Date: Fri, Aug 19,2011 at 02:01 PM Subject: Tzedakah In reply to Carl (MJ 60#29): I once gave a Shabbat morning dvar Torah that was designed to give hizuk (encouragement) to our Zedakah donations. One man came up after davening and said, "You're right but you're wrong." All the halakhic reasons why we should give mean nothing to our sense of fair play--we worked hard for our money, so why are you asking me to give it free to you? (I agree they come around the fall holidays and Pesah/Shavuot. But here in South Florida is where they come in droves when there is the frigid cold up north in the winter time! So we see them Hanukkah, Purim and all in between.) In any event, I was in the Rav's, zt"l, shiur when he was yelling at us that according to the RaMBa"M, it is an issur d'oraitha to refuse to give someone who is asking you for financial help. Now, this does not mean that we have give our entire bank account. The halakhah is clear: what we give just needs to be given with a lev tov--a positive disposition. In the biography of Rav Moshe Feinstein, zt"l, Rav Moshe is quoted as saying that as a member of the general society, he had an obligation to give to the civic organizations (e.g. Heart Association, etc.) that ask for help. As to Carl's scenarios: They are all difficult situations. But put yourself in the shoes of m'vakesh, the petitioner. How low must one be to turn to others to ask their help. How does this hurt their self esteem?, their sense of dignity? Suppose the tables were turned--how would we feel that we had to ask for another's help? "There but for the grace of ......" It is attributed to the GR"A that he was asked about setting up a committee to verify whether the m'vakshim (requesters) are legitimate. He responded that the Torah has a proof of such a committee. It is called the City of S'dom. Not a very pretty endorsement of the idea. Finally, Carl mentioned that some of the m'vakshim are driven around our neighborhoods by people who point out the dati and non-dati/non-Jewish homes. On the other hand, there isn't a major (and many minor) institution in the US that doesn't have a full time fund raiser or development director who is paid primarily by commission based on the amount of money raised. Why should there be a difference with someone who drives the m'vakshim around? They are giving their time, automobile gas, wear and tear and knowledge of the community. And so I usually advise people to budget their donations but do it with a lev tov. That way one does it like a mitzvah should be observed while still taken personal needs into account. Best wishes, Chaim Casper North Miami Beach, FL ---------------------------------------------------------------------- From: Martin Stern <md.stern@...> Date: Mon, Aug 22,2011 at 11:01 AM Subject: Tzedakah Carl Singer <carl.singer@...> wrote (MJ 60#29): > For many of us tzedukah involves choices. And it's the time of year when > Tzedukah requests start flowing in. > > Halachically, we can iron out the "how much" -- the question then becomes > "to whom" -- both from a halachic and a social point of view. He lists various situations to which I would like to add the fellow who comes up to you in shul and loudly demands a donation: 1. after you have put on your tefillin shel yad but are just taking the shel rosh out of the bag 2. during birchot kriat shema 3. while you have your hand over your eyes while saying the first verse of the shema. 4. while you are in the middle of shmoneh esreh 5. during chazarat hashats (even to the shliach tzibbur) OK, I have not actually seen case 4 but the others have really happened on several occasions. I just wonder why they cannot collect at more appropriate times such as during Psukei Dezimra or Ashrei/Uva Letsion. I have yet to see any who were on the verge of collapse from starvation for whom pikuach nefesh [danger to life] would justify interrupting (and in such a situation money might be too late, they would need food on the spot - imagine their reaction if one offered them a sweet!) so it appears that we are being expected to do so purely for their convenience. Any comments anyone? Martin Stern ----------------------------------------------------------------------
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